Let’s face it, the women won out in the sex toy department.  If you look for toys for men, it’s a pretty slim selection, and half of them (like vibrating rings) are really for both.  Women have multiple categories and subcategories of toys to choose from.

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And to be honest – most of the time we men aren’t really looking for a toy for us, and I’m the same way.  I did not go shopping for a toy for men.  Instead, Lovense reached out to me and asked if I’d like to review their new toy for men.  I actually tried to get them to switch to a different toy (one to use on my wife), but they were pretty insistent.

I told them that I’m more of a giver than a receiver, and I actually prefer buying toys to use on her.  They wanted me to try it anyway.

I said that I don’t tend to get a lot of pleasure out of stimulation like this – I don’t even orgasm from manual or oral sex, so this isn’t likely to have a very positive outcome.  Still, they insisted.

Now, I’m not one to turn down a free toy, even if it doesn’t work for me – I was more worried they’d be annoyed about the review, but they were very clear – they’d rather have an honest review than a positive one, and even if it doesn’t work for me, the truth is, I think it would probably work for a lot of men.

So, here’s my honest experience with it – the good, and the underwhelming, plus all the caveats that go with my experience so you can try to make an informed decision yourself about whether it’s something you want to try.

Lovense Gush 2 review at a glance

The Gush 2 is a well-built, premium-feeling toy made for the man’s pleasure that most guys will probably enjoy. It didn’t do much for me, but, as I said, I think that says far more about how I’m wired than about the toy itself. It’s quiet, waterproof, easy to clean, and backed by Lovense’s excellent app (best remote control app I’ve used yet).  It costs around $99 (USD). 

First, a quick word for those wondering if this even belongs here

If you’re new around here, you might be asking whether sex toys have any place in a Christian marriage at all. I’ve written a full article on exactly that question: Are sex toys allowed in a Christian marriage?

The short version of where I land: the Bible is silent on the subject, so the real question isn’t “allowed or not allowed,” it’s whether a toy enhances your relationship or detracts from it. If it draws the two of you closer, wonderful. If it becomes the focus, or your intimacy starts to depend on it, that’s where it stops helping. Hold onto that lens, because it actually shapes how I feel about this particular toy.

What the Gush 2 actually is

Let’s clear up what this thing is, because the name doesn’t tell you much.

The Gush 2 is a hands-free, app-controlled massager for the man. It’s an open-ended, flexible sleeve that wraps around the head of the penis and uses oscillation (a side-to-side motion) plus vibration to stimulate the glans and frenulum. It is not insertable, it’s not a prostate toy, and despite some descriptions you might see online, in our experience it is not something you can keep on during intercourse. We found it’s a foreplay toy, full stop.

The basics:

• Soft, medical-grade silicone with an adjustable band that fits a wide range of sizes
• Dual motors with both oscillation and vibration
• Fully waterproof, so it’s easy to clean and shower-safe
• Magnetic charging with solid battery life
• Bluetooth control through the Lovense Remote app (patterns, music sync, and long-distance control)
• Runs around $99

The big caveat about me

First, as I said, I tend to deal with delayed ejaculation. I don’t get strong sensations from most kinds of play, so a toy that’s all about stimulating me is already fighting an uphill battle.  It’s really not a fair review – like I said, they were insistent.

Second, and this is the bigger one: my wife and I almost always buy toys to stimulate her. A toy aimed at my pleasure is genuinely unusual for us, because honestly, I get more out of being part of her pleasure than I do out of receiving stimulation myself.  I’m generally not the one that needs more stimulation or excitement – I don’t even need to orgasm in a session as long as I get to see her enjoying herself.  So I’m really not the target audience for this type of toy.

So when I tell you my experience was lukewarm, please hear this clearly: that’s a me thing, not a toy thing. Your mileage may, and probably will, vary.  If you orgasm easily from handjobs and blowjobs – this is probably amazing.

Our experience

We used it together during foreplay. We didn’t bother with the app this time, since we were in the same room and a remote felt pointless when she was right there.  That said, we do use the remote when using other Lovense toys on her, mostly so I can pre-program a varied pattern so it’s not just an annoying constant or repeating buzz.  It’s a great set-and-forget tool that frees up both your hands once you get it set up.  Anyways, back to this toy.

My reaction was kind of “meh.” It took a solid 20 to 30 minutes before it started to feel arousing at all, and even then it was pretty low-level.  Sort of an “I think it might be starting to feel good” – but still, I could take it or leave it. Before that, it was just sort of there. Even once it did start to register, it never built into anything I’d call a wow. It stayed underwhelming for me from start to finish.

But go back and reread that caveat section, because I think that’s the whole story. Given that I don’t get much from this kind of stimulation in the first place, and that I’d much rather be focused on my wife than on a gadget doing something to me, the Gush 2 was always swimming upstream. I spent most of the time playing with my wife anyway, which tells you where my attention naturally goes.

Build quality and comfort

Here’s where I can be straightforwardly positive: the build quality is good. It feels and operates like a premium toy, which has been true of every Lovense product we’ve tried. The silicone is nice, the construction is solid, nothing about it feels cheap.

It stayed in place well, and it was comfortable enough to wear. A little awkward, sure, but not distracting (though to be fair, I was otherwise distracted by my wife). It’s easy to clean, it’s waterproof, and it’s pretty quiet. That last one matters more than people think. We have thin walls, and noise wasn’t a concern.

It’s easy to charge – Lovense chargers for their toys (at least the three we have) is universal, which is nice.  It is proprietary, but it’s also magnetic.  You don’t have to insert a cable, which means you don’t have a port to damage if you accidentally pull it out of the drawer while it’s still charging.  Also no port means nowhere to get lube or other liquids stuck and then trying to figure out how to clean that out without damaging it.

The app

We skipped the app for this session, but we’re far from new to it. We use the Lovense Remote app with their other toys (our Lush 3 and our Ferri), so I can tell you it’s good. It’s easy to use, the feature set is deep, and the long-distance control genuinely works.

It’s not flawless. It disconnects randomly every now and then, which is mildly annoying. But of the app-controlled toys we’ve tried, Lovense’s is the best of the bunch, and it’s not particularly close.

Who this is for (and who it isn’t)

Here’s the thing: I think most people would enjoy this toy. The list of who wouldn’t is actually shorter and more specific than the list of who would.

You probably won’t love it if you’re someone like me: a person who genuinely prefers experiencing their spouse’s pleasure over their own, and who doesn’t get a lot out of receiving this style of stimulation. If that’s you, this likely won’t become a staple.

But if you’re a man who enjoys focused stimulation, or a couple looking to put the wife in the “giving” seat for a change, or you’re a wife who would love to return the favour of making your husband squirm while you play with the remote, or a long-distance couple who’d actually use the app as a remote control over distance, I think there’s a lot here to like. It’s well made, it’s quiet, it’s easy to charge, and it does what it sets out to do.

The bottom line

Would I recommend trying it? Yes. I just can’t promise you results, because I didn’t get many myself.

I’m not going to slap a number on it, because a score would say more about me than about the toy. What I’ll tell you honestly is this: the Gush 2 probably won’t become one of our go-to toys, simply because it doesn’t fit who we are. I’ll probably try it a few more times just to see if things change, but our current favorite and most-used toy is the Lush 3. That’s the one I always make sure is charged. The Gush 2 just isn’t aimed at the way we play as a couple.

And that brings me right back to the lens from the top: a toy is worth keeping if it enhances your relationship. The Gush 2 is a quality product that simply pulls in a direction we don’t tend to go. For others, that might be the right fit.

Where to get it

If you want to give it a try, you can find it here:

• Lovense Gush 2 – Vibe for men

And the two Lovense toys we actually reach for most:

• Lovense Lush 3 – Dual stimulation remote control vibe
• Lovense Ferri – Remove control bullet vibe

As always, whatever you bring into your bedroom, bring it in together, on the same page, with the goal of drawing closer to each other. The toy is never the point. You two are.

A Warning about Lovense

Lovense makes quality toys – no doubt about it.  However, they’re also well known for catering to people who make money by broadcasting explicit sexual activities live online.  They advertise to them, they have sections of their website devoted to how to use it in that industry, and they also have a section dedicated to pairing their devices with erotica.  

None of the pages I linked to show nudity or anything explicitly sexual (except the fact that it’s a sex toy).  However, if you go wandering around their site too much, that might change – I don’t know.  I didn’t go exploring that far, because it was outside of the scope that was needed to look at, research, select, and purchase a toy. 

Just be aware, if you’re struggling in that area – better to just stay away, because even if you buy from a Christian toy store like MarriedDance.com or RomanticBlessings.com – the app is still going to contain the same content.

You decide what’s appropriate for you – I just wanted to give fair warning. Now, some might ask “well, why promote them at all?” because the truth is, most of the technology we use on a day to day basis did not come from people who share our views on morality. IBM made leaps and bounds when they made computers to track prisoners in Nazi interment camps. Most internet technology is due to the porn industry. I’m not a “throw the baby out with the bathwater” type, more of an “eat the meat and spit out the bones”, but I’m also aware that’s not everyone – so act in accordance with your convictions, not mine.