SWM 157
When intimacy keeps getting derailed by oddly timed comments about hygiene, illness, or unrelated problems, it’s easy to wonder if you’re losing your mind or being subtly shut down. This question comes up far more often than people realize, and…
SWM 152
Topics include: My wife’s nightclothes are killing my attraction Is using a vibrator wrong? How do I get my husband to initiate sex? Need something to spice up our sex life How does scent factor into spouse selection Recovery after…
SWM 141
Topics include: Wife trades chores for sex How to handle no sex due to birth Water-based lube that doesn’t cause UTIs Guy’s relationships always end in affairs Post-childbirth and penis size preferences Wife is a gatekeeper
SWM 125
I’ve had a lot of conversations with couples as well as husbands and wives individually lately about what often gets called “duty sex” or “pity sex.” For those who don’t know, duty/pity sex is when one spouse gives in to…
SWM 114
I had a wife ask, “Sex should be a gift given freely, and if I don’t have veto power, am I really giving freely?” This is my response in light of 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 and the role model Jesus was…
SWM 101
Answering this question: Jay, I enjoyed the book (Introduction to Talking Dirty) that my hubby put on my iPad. The thing is, no matter what I do in my comfort zone, it isn’t enough. I do many, I mean many,…
SWM 089
Topics include: Fix the alcohol abuse before trying to fix your sex life Wife who has hourly mood swings and is disrespectful Wife who engages in sex, but isn’t sexual Oxytocin and porn and masturbation Wife wants husband to get…
For the last month or so, we’ve had a survey open about how you prefer to have your spouse initiate sex. If you never got a chance, you can fill it out here. I do sometimes delve into old surveys…
SWM 057
Topics Include: How to get more intimate nights with my wife Can I have sex with my ex-husband? Does my husband want kinky sex? Is it okay to want more passionate sex? What happens when you die? – what about…
Anonymous questions from December 2019 and January 2020 Topics Include: Gang bang fantasy How to make sex not feel like an obligation How to get past sebacks during foreplay Wife needs to feel “dirty” to orgasm A warning about “Boundaries”…
SWM 047
Ever feel like having a high sex drive is a burden? Have you wondered why God made you this way? Here are some of the reasons I think having spontaneous desire is a blessing.