SWM 160
Social media says the mental load is a chore problem, and that if husbands just did their half, their exhausted wives would finally want them. But splitting the load in half does not lift it. Here is why the mental…
SWM 159
“I struggle with rejection, even when I haven’t actually been rejected.” If that lands for you, there’s a name for it: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and it’s closely tied to ADHD. Here’s what RSD is, how it quietly damages a marriage…
If you’ve spent any time on this site, you might start to wonder if anyone actually has a good sex life. Problem after problem. Struggle after struggle. Mismatched drives, painful sex, dead bedrooms, porn addiction, resentment. It’s enough to make…
Survey data from over 1,000 married Christians reveals the same pattern across every sexual activity we measured: couples who talk openly about sex are dramatically more satisfied than those who don’t. If you’ve been sitting on something unsaid, the silence…
You know the cycle. Something happens, a tone of voice, a forgotten commitment, a moment that stings, and suddenly you’re both defending your corners instead of actually connecting. You talk at each other. You wait for your turn to explain…
Often the fights we have as couples aren’t about what we think they are. Because while we think we’re fighting about respect, sex, tone, in-laws, money, kids or anything else under the sun, often the real issue is far less…
SWM 148
Have you noticed how quickly disagreements turn into demonization these days? Whether it’s politics, religion, or even marriage, we’ve gotten stuck in a cycle of contempt—where the ‘other side’ isn’t just wrong, they’re evil. And it’s destroying relationships. I see…
In my work as a marriage coach, I often see couples transition from one type of marriage to another. There’s no clear line between these states, no set of rules that definitively places someone in one category or the other.…
SWM 140
Topics include: Wife’s love dependent on mood Why don’t you direct people to God? Can’t seem to manage other positions Wife rejects exploration and being seen Nervous about sex outdoors Crossdressing rehash
SWM 139
Recently, I’ve noticed a question popping up all over the place. It’s come up in our supporter forum, coaching sessions, emails, comments in our latest survey, and more. This question points to a fundamental tension in many marriages – at…
Last week, Gary Thomas posted an article on his substack on the topic of discipline vs. punishment—not taking a stance but rather offering it up as a controversial conversation starter. Reading it made me curious about something—does your view of…