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  • Sex Wedge Pillow Positions: How to Use a Liberator Wedge (And Why It’s Worth Every Cent)
    I was skeptical. We’d used regular pillows for years. What could a wedge-shaped foam pillow do that a folded bed pillow couldn’t? And how do you justify spending $100 on something that doesn’t even vibrate? Turns out, quite a lot.
  • Why Don’t We Ever Talk About What We Actually Want in Bed?
    Survey data from over 1,000 married Christians reveals the same pattern across every sexual activity we measured: couples who talk openly about sex are dramatically more satisfied than those who don’t. If you’ve been sitting on something unsaid, the silence is almost certainly part of the problem.
  • A couple holds hands while looking at two charts showing oral sex satisfaction data — husbands skewing dissatisfied on the left, wives skewing satisfied on the right. Text reads: Do All Husbands Want More Oral Sex? What 1,000+ Married Couples Revealed.
    Do All Husbands Want More Oral Sex
    The short answer is no, however the numbers are striking enough that it’s worth digging into. Because if you’re a wife who feels like your husband is never quite satisfied with your sex life, or a husband who has never quite figured out how to say what he actually wants, this data is going to feel familiar.We surveyed over 1,000 married Protestant Christians and asked them, among many other things, how satisfied they are with the role oral sex plays in their marriage. What we found was one of the starkest gender gaps in the entire dataset.
  • Illustration of a married couple holding hands while looking at two charts comparing solo behavior decreasing and shared intimacy increasing, with the headline “Does Masturbation Help or Hurt Your Marriage? Here’s What the Data Says.”
    Does Masturbation Help or Hurt Your Marriage? Here’s What the Data Says
    Nearly a year ago someone suggested I redo my 2014 survey on mutual masturbation. I did, and I expanded it considerably. What I got back from 1,043 married Christians was more interesting than I expected. Some of it confirmed what I thought going in. Some of it didn’t. And one pattern in particular showed up so consistently across so many different cuts of the data that I had a hard time writing around it. That pattern is what this post is about.
  • The Mirror Game – A Simple 4-Step Communication Skill That Can Transform Your Marriage
    You know the cycle. Something happens, a tone of voice, a forgotten commitment, a moment that stings, and suddenly you’re both defending your corners instead of actually connecting. You talk at each other. You wait for your turn to explain yourself – maybe you don’t do very well at waiting.  Maybe you interrupt and talk over each other a lot. As a result, after the “conversation” ends, you both feel more alone than before.What if there was a simple framework that could break that cycle? Not a magic fix, but a real, learnable skill that draws you toward each other instead of apart?It’s called the Mirror Game.  It’s easy to explain and simple to implement – the hard part is remembering to do it.