The First-Year Marriage Gift

Description

The gift that shapes the next fifty years

Most couples who end up in a marriage coach’s office are five, ten, or fifteen years in, untangling patterns that they quietly have built up over the years, often without meaning to, and and got reinforced ever since. How-we-fight, how-we-handle-money, how-we-do-intimacy, and how-we-pray, how-we-do-life are all being written, day by day, often just being made up, one reaction at a time to whatever life throws at you, whether anyone is paying attention or not.

The First-Year Marriage Gift puts an experienced, faith-rooted marriage coach beside a couple for their entire first year, while the clay is still soft. It is a gift you give once that keeps working long after the wedding photos are filed away.

Who this is for

This is for the gift-giver: the mentor, pastor, parent, or officiant who wants to give a newly married (or soon-to-be-married) couple something far better than another set of towels or a toaster. You buy it; they receive a full year of coaching and curriculum. You will only ever know whether they are showing up and engaging, never the substance of what is discussed. The coaching itself stays completely confidential between the couple and their coach.

What the couple receives

The program runs as two streams that work together:

• A weekly lesson series, twelve themes across the year. A first-year curriculum built specifically for newly married couples: the first-year mindset, attitude and assuming the best, communication, conflict and repair, intimacy, money, in-laws, time and the division of labour, faith as a couple, friendships, long-term vision, and a year-one audit to close. Each theme runs about four weeks, with a full lesson every week (forty-eight in all across the year), each going deeper on a different piece of the theme. The lessons are theirs to keep.
• Twelve private monthly coaching calls over Google Meet, 60 minutes each, both spouses on every call. This is the personal layer. The agenda is the couple’s actual life, not a lecture on the lesson. They bring what is real that month and get an outside set of eyes on it.
• Couple’s Night. A monthly gathering with other married couples working through the same themes, over Google Meet. Community, not just content.
• Forum access on uncoveringintimacy.com. A searchable archive of years of conversation on virtually every marriage topic.
• A recap email after every call. What was covered, what stood out, and the one or two things to practice before next month.
• Between-session access. Quick questions by email or text between calls.
• A free intro call with the couple before anything is finalized, so all three confirm it is a good fit.

How it works

1. Purchase the gift. You buy the year for your couple.
2. We meet them. Jay Dee runs a free intro call with the couple to put faces to names and confirm fit.
3. The year begins. Weekly lessons start arriving and the first monthly call is scheduled. The 12-month clock starts from their first session, on a cadence that flexes around real life (travel, work, holidays).

A note on faith

This coaching is rooted in a Christian view of marriage: covenant, grace, and repair. Scripture is the lens, never a weapon. If the couple is open to that frame, they will feel at home here.

Why a year, and why monthly

Catching a marriage one degree off-course in year one is dramatically cheaper than catching it fifteen degrees off-course in year ten. A year gives the new habits time to set, the seasons time to turn, and the couple time to actually build something with an experienced guide in their corner the whole way.

Give the gift that is still working on their tenth anniversary.