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  Why Does My Wife Refuse Intimacy Beyond the Basics?
  A husband writes: seventeen years married, sex twice a week, and his wife will not try anything beyond the basics. He says he does not know why she refuses. But she told him why, four times, and he heard it as one refusal. Here is what each of those four answers actually means, and why the real problem is not oral sex or toys, but that the topic itself has become off limits.
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  How to Solve the Mental Load in a Christian Marriage
  Social media says the mental load is a chore problem, and that if husbands just did their half, their exhausted wives would finally want them. But splitting the load in half does not lift it. Here is why the mental load is really a leadership problem, and the biblical solution the world keeps fumbling toward.
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  Why Do I Feel So Rejected by My Spouse?
  “I struggle with rejection, even when I haven’t actually been rejected.” If that lands for you, there’s a name for it: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and it’s closely tied to ADHD. Here’s what RSD is, how it quietly damages a marriage (especially in the bedroom), and what actually helps.
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  Are There Sex Toys for Men?
  Let’s face it, the women won out in the sex toy department.  If you look for toys for men, it’s a pretty slim selection, and half of them (like vibrating rings) are really for both.  Women have multiple categories and subcategories of toys to choose from. And to be honest – most of the time we men aren’t really looking for a toy for us, and I’m the same way.  I did not go shopping for a toy for men.  Instead, Lovense reached out to me and asked if I’d like to review their new toy for men.  I actually tried to get them to switch to a different toy (one to use on my wife), but they were pretty insistent. I told them that I’m more of a giver than a receiver, and I actually prefer buying toys to use on her.  They wanted me to try it anyway. I said that I don’t tend to get a lot of pleasure out of stimulation like this – I don’t even orgasm from manual or oral sex, so this isn’t likely to have a very positive outcome.  Still, they insisted. Now, I’m not one to turn down a free toy, even if it doesn’t work for me – I was more worried they’d be annoyed about the review, but they were very clear – they’d rather have an honest review than a positive one, and even if it doesn’t work for me, the truth is, I think it would probably work for a lot of men. So, here’s my honest experience with it – the good, and the underwhelming, plus all the caveats that go with my experience so you can try to make an informed decision yourself about whether it’s something you want to try.
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  Manual Sex, Oral Sex, Mutual & Solo Masturbation: The Full Survey Results
  In July and August we surveyed 1,058 married Christians on manual sex, oral sex, mutual masturbation, and solo masturbation. This is the full breakdown: who does what, how often, what couples actually use, where the silence is loudest, and what people quietly wish were different.