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- SWM 155 – Hookup Culture – When You Take Relationship Out of Sex
We live in a world that has learned to separate what God never divided. Hookup culture is the next stage of sex stripped of meaning – where bodies meet, but no one truly connects. I’m continuing this series exploring how, when we remove aspects of God’s intent for sex, we end up with all the examples of sexual immorality we see in our world. Last time, I tackled what removing covenant from sex gets you: sex before marriage, and the fallout from that choice. Today, we’re going to push that even further and look at hookup culture. At first glance it might seem like sex before marriage taken to the next level – but that expansion comes with new problems. This isn’t just the removal of covenant – it’s the removal of the relationship itself. - SWM 154 – Sex Before Marriage – When You Remove Covenant from Intimacy
In my last post, I wrote about how sex is an act of worship because having sex, the way God intended, gives worth to Him. It honours what He created by using it as He intended. However, our society is doing its best to invert that by taking away elements of God’s plan so as to distort sex. To make it not something that’s worship and creative, but rather destructive to ourselves, to each other, and to society as a whole. So, today we’re going to explore sex outside of marriage, or what happens when you remove the covenant from sexual intimacy. And to be clear, the legal status of the relationship is not the big problem here. It’s the intentional lifelong monogamous commitment to each other. Arguably, many marriages in the Bible are considered marriages simply because they had sex. However, sex is meant to seal a covenant, not substitute for one. - SWM 153 – Sex as an Act of Worship
The other night, after my wife and I had sex, we were lying there in that sweaty, happy pile you end up in when the oxytocin kicks in. As I often do, I asked her what she was thinking about. She’ll tell you I probably ask that too often, because I’m endlessly curious about what’s going on in her head. Her answer surprised me. She said, “Sex is an act of worship.” I asked her to explain, and she said, “Well, everything we do should be for God. And since you’re the head of the household, just as Christ is the head of the church, then giving myself to you, serving you in this way, is like serving Christ.” That surprised me. I mean, I’ve taught before that sex is about more than physical release – that it’s for procreation, for bonding, for comfort, for recreation, even for warding off temptation. But I don’t think I’ve ever described it quite this way: as an act of worship. So let’s unpack that. What does it mean that sex – sweaty, messy, joyful sex – could actually be worship of the God who created it? - SWM 152 – AQ – Unsexy nightclothes, husbands who won’t initiate, scent and partner selection and more
Topics include: My wife’s nightclothes are killing my attraction Is using a vibrator wrong? How do I get my husband to initiate sex? Need something to spice up our sex life How does scent factor into spouse selection Recovery after pregnancy Is using classical conditioning on your spouse wrong? How do I keep myself from becoming distant from my husband? How can I talk to my husband about oral sex? - SWM 151 – AQ – Oral Sex Norms, Fantasy Guilt & Rekindling PassionIn this episode, we are tackling the subjects: – Do men enjoy cunnilingus after ejaculation? – Should I feel bad for refusing oral after anal? – My spouse says I should accept substitutes for sex – Feeling unloved due to lack of physical affection – Guilt over sexual desires shaped by past porn use – When one spouse wants BDSM and the other doesn’t – Sex is loving but not exciting—can it be fixed? – Why not have kids in your 40s? – Survey requests on mutual masturbation and handjobs