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  • Manual Sex, Oral Sex, Mutual & Solo Masturbation: The Full Survey Results
    In July and August we surveyed 1,058 married Christians on manual sex, oral sex, mutual masturbation, and solo masturbation. This is the full breakdown: who does what, how often, what couples actually use, where the silence is loudest, and what people quietly wish were different.
  • Are most marriages struggling with their sex life?
    If you’ve spent any time on this site, you might start to wonder if anyone actually has a good sex life. Problem after problem. Struggle after struggle. Mismatched drives, painful sex, dead bedrooms, porn addiction, resentment. It’s enough to make you wonder why you’d bother getting married at all. But it’s not just people reading marriage blogs who feel this way. Many couples hits a version of this question at some point; either before marriage, or in the quiet after another disappointing night. “Is this normal? Is everyone else struggling like we are? Are we the only ones?” Someone submitted this to our Anonymous Have A Question page a while back, and it captured that fear pretty well: I (m, 32) am in my first (and new) relationship (f, 28), we are both committed to wait for intimacy until marriage. I have a past of premarital sex until about 28 or so. I freed myself from that behaviour (sex outside marriage, porn, masturbation, etc.) with external help and I am now ‘clean’. 4 years after I am now trying to find out whether this relationship could ultimately turn into marriage. As for most men – I suppose – sex is quite a key component for me in a relationship. Having read quite some articles on your page, I have come to wonder: 1. Are most marriages struggling with their sex life? I basically only stumble across articles describing how it is a problem and all the stuff that is going wrong in it. Doesn’t sound like a very motivating outlook to me tbh. 2. What advice would you give me today, helping to provide for the best foundation possible such that I can enjoy a fulfilling sex-life with my future wife (whoever that might be)?
  • Sex Wedge Pillow Positions: How to Use a Liberator Wedge (And Why It’s Worth Every Cent)
    I was skeptical. We’d used regular pillows for years. What could a wedge-shaped foam pillow do that a folded bed pillow couldn’t? And how do you justify spending $100 on something that doesn’t even vibrate? Turns out, quite a lot.
  • Why Don’t We Ever Talk About What We Actually Want in Bed?
    Survey data from over 1,000 married Christians reveals the same pattern across every sexual activity we measured: couples who talk openly about sex are dramatically more satisfied than those who don’t. If you’ve been sitting on something unsaid, the silence is almost certainly part of the problem.
  • A couple holds hands while looking at two charts showing oral sex satisfaction data — husbands skewing dissatisfied on the left, wives skewing satisfied on the right. Text reads: Do All Husbands Want More Oral Sex? What 1,000+ Married Couples Revealed.
    Do All Husbands Want More Oral Sex
    The short answer is no, however the numbers are striking enough that it’s worth digging into. Because if you’re a wife who feels like your husband is never quite satisfied with your sex life, or a husband who has never quite figured out how to say what he actually wants, this data is going to feel familiar. We surveyed over 1,000 married Protestant Christians and asked them, among many other things, how satisfied they are with the role oral sex plays in their marriage. What we found was one of the starkest gender gaps in the entire dataset.