Data-driven answers about married Christian sexuality since 2012
Most advice about sex in Christian marriage is one person’s opinion. Ours rests on original surveys of over 1,000 married Christians at a time, 662 published articles, and Scripture, taught frankly and without shame.
Jay Dee, trained Christian life and marriage coach · Married to Christina since 2001 · Five kids
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This month’s finding · From the May 2026 reader survey
Of the 1,058 married Christians we surveyed in May, 83% are satisfied with their relationship overall, but only 57% are satisfied with their sex life. The marriage is fine. The bedroom is where the silence lives.
Closing that gap, with data, Scripture, and honest conversation, is the whole reason this ministry exists.
Share of respondents answering “satisfied,” May 2026
The 26 points between those two bars is the space this site works in.
Reader survey, May 2026. 1,058 married Christians.
Correlation with sexual satisfaction (r)
Mutual activities as a couple
Solo, kept secret
The pattern across both 2026 surveys: what couples bring into the open strengthens them, and what stays hidden corrodes.
Reader survey, March 2026. 1,000+ married Christians.
Fourteen years of work, organized into four doors. All of it frank, tasteful, and grounded in Scripture and survey data.
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662 articles answering the questions couples are afraid to ask out loud.
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