Monthly Archives: March 2016

Active Listening

In this week’s challenge, I mentioned active listening as a skill that people should be using, but hadn’t had a post up yet about it.  So, today I’m going to rectify that. Active listening, which I’ve also heard called Listening 2.0 or Level

SWM022: Does my spouse find me unattractive

A couple of years ago I got a message from a reader who was beside herself with unfounded fears that her husband was no longer attracted to her.  She hadn’t asked him.  She had no indication that he wasn’t, but she had this deep seated fear that he wasn’t.

The 5 Levels of Communication

In yesterday’s post, I mentioned the 5 levels of communication, and suddenly realized I had not yet written a post about them.  So, that’s what I’m going to do today. The 5 levels of communication are not something I can take credit for.

Where do I hide our sex toys?

Here’s a question I received a couple of weeks ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: I’m interested in adding toys to our intimate repertoire.  However, one of the issues which keeps me reluctant to do so is the fear of my

SWM021: Spice Jar

I didn’t have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our new product: The Spice Jar – A printable game to help you change things up in the bedroom tonight.

Does your spouse get the “best” you?

As many of my readers know, I recently took a new job.  The work is fantastic.  The pay is more than adequate.  I’m respected, and I feel, and am told, that I’m a real asset to the company.  Not only that, but it

How do you stay focused on your spouse during sex?

I have a few questions in my inbox from our Have A Question page this week, but I wanted to tackle this one that came in last night. I am trying to be a good Christian in my marriage but I am struggling.

Homosexuality and Christians: How Do We Respond?

I’ve been avoiding this topic for quite some time.  4+ years of blogging about sex, and I’ve barely mentioned the issue of homosexuality.  Why have I been avoiding it?  Well, to be honest, I wanted to flesh out my own beliefs.  My own

SWM020: 7 Dirty Fighting Techniques That Should Not Exist In Your Marriage

I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code.  Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict.  Now, conflict isn’t bad, in fact, it can be good and healthy.  Conflict forces us to grow, to see another person’s perspective, to seek unselfish solutions.  But, if conflict is dealt with in an unhealthy manner, then it can be damaging.

The Sex Within Marriage Manifesto

The topic of sex within marriage within the Christian community is an oddity.  The reactions to bringing up the topic are quite varied:  embarrassment, shame, fear, anger, interest, inquisitiveness, looking for help, looking to share a burden, wanting to know their normal.  Often

How can I make him taste better?

I received this question a couple of days ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: I love giving my husband oral, but I find his semen to be very bitter. It’s actually very difficult to not gag at the taste. I thought